Tuesday's Thoughts

I think I am going to start a weekly post called Tuesday's Thoughts. This can encompass any and all things. Welcome to the first Tuesday's Thoughts!

This Tuesday I have quite a few thoughts that I've been mulling over.

My number one thought has been on starting over. Starting Over can apply to multiple situations... divorce/separation from your significant other and starting all over again. Starting over on a major life goal for yourself. Starting over with another child and just a slew of so many things!

I have embarked on a few of the starting over points in my life at various times.

I separated from my ex-husband in 2006 before my eldest child even turned a year old. That was a major event in my life that caused me to analyze everything in my life. I hadn't worked in two years and had to find a job to support my daughter and myself. I had to find a new place to live that would accept my dog. He's labeled as a "bad" breed being a pit bull, but truth be known... he's run away from pomeranians! He's definitely not a "bad" dog, but that's for another time.

I found myself faced with many "do overs". I had to start all over with a new job, a new place to live, being a single mom, which I had been the entire length of her life at this point, but I was going to be a working single mom which is entirely different. I was facing the fact that I was going to have to start over in the dating field when the time came and just everything!

It was extremely scary and there were some days that were so trying and taxing that I wasn't sure I'd thought it through before I made that leap.

In the end it was all worth it. I made the right decision for my daughter and myself to separate and ultimately divorce my ex-husband. I found a great job that was a stepping stone to an even better one. I "found" my current husband. I had another baby girl. I got married.

I am the happiest I have ever been in my life! There are many starting over points in life, or "do overs" if you'd like to call them that and they are all hard, some more than others. But they all seem to have the same steps to get through them.

Lead with your head. Think things through. Let your heart have an opinion, but do what's right for you and yours.

Make a list of what you need to accomplish or do in order to get through it. Lists seem like daunting things at times, but in the end when you have marked everything off you get a great sense of accomplishment and good self esteem is always a plus!

Write or talk it out. You don't even have to write or talk to anyone. Keep it for yourself so once you are through it you can look back and see how far you've gotten OR you can do my favorite... burn it.

Burning your written thoughts from when times were tough, trying or just more than you thought you could handle is liberating somehow. To sit back, watch the final reminder of tough times burn away and to know they are all completely gone now is a GREAT feeling!

Regardless of what you are going through or what you have gone through there is always a dignified way out. Always rise above these things and make yourself a better person. Just remember you can do this and you will.